When Enough Isn't Enough
According to Merriam-Webster, the following is the definition of the word enough:
“Occurring in such quantity, quality, or scope as to fully meet demands, needs, or expectations”
How do you feel about that definition, in terms of how it relates to you?
Are you enough to fully meet the demands, needs and expectations of your life?
I think what trips me up in all of that is the word fully.
On most days, I feel I do pretty well at taking care of my job, the house and everyone/thing in it. But is pretty well the same as fully?
Some days I can’t even conceive of what it would be like to fully meet these demands and expectations.
And I don’t even know if it’s humanly possible.
I think this pic from facebook pretty much sums it up:
How true is that??
And with the job responsibilities thrown on top of home/self/family care, I am a mess. Yes, I meet my deadlines and remember to pick up my children on time, but I look like hell and so does the homestead, many days.
I think this is just reality for those of us who prefer sleep to scrubbing toilets or plucking eyebrows at midnight.
And even if you don’t work outside the home, I know you are volunteering for something at your kid’s school, church, etc., and that totally counts. See, you’re picking up the pieces for me, in all the areas I can’t cover.
Even working from home, there's only so much I can do.
But pondering all of this makes me feel a little nostalgic for the 50s. Now don’t get all crazy women’s lib on me for saying this. It’s just that sometimes, I wish my list of expectations was a little bit shorter, so that I might be able to meet them more fully, rather than pretty well.
Sometimes I think June Cleaver had it made, with her apron and her scope of responsibility confined only to her four walls. And as appealing as that sounds on a hard day, I know I would be seriously repressed and unfulfilled if I didn’t at least have the option to do something more.
But like most things in life, be careful what you wish for, because you might get it. You want to do more? Great, here’s more to do.
And for most of us, I think, it’s the level of more with which we let ourselves be content.
I, for one, have come to accept that on most days, I will not accomplish everything I want to accomplish, to the level that I want to accomplish it.
And I’m OK with that. I have to be. June was perfect, and I am not.
And maybe that’s what’s bugging me about this dictionary definition of enough. It’s a little too close to perfect. And I’m allergic to perfect. But I believe I am enough.
Therefore, I would hereby like to officially declare and demand that Merriam-Webster change the definition of enough to:
“Occurring in such quantity, quality, or scope as to pretty well meet demands, needs, or expectations”
Anyone want to second me?